Nudity Should Not Be a Public Object

Nudity or partial nudity has become one of the major themes that the media use to further attract the audience’s attention, especially the male audience. This is particularly true in the movies, plays, commercials, advertisements, and magazines. Certain people might find viewing nudity or partial nudity amusing and pleasurable to look at. Some people might view it as a form of art to display nudity on stage or even on the street for artistic purposes, which can be very attractive and arousing. This is why producers tend to show nudity in a very sensual, lustful, and provocative way for the purpose of arousing the audience and not for the purpose of telling a good story.

However, the majority of us, from our soul perspectives, tend to find nudity and partial nudity to be very disturbing to the eyes, the emotions, the minds, and the spirits. This is because nudity and partial nudity are not supposed to be public objects to be seen by people we do not know. Instead, the physical body (especially our private parts) is considered our most valuable and sacred possession and should not be used in any way as an enjoyment for untamed eyes, physical fantasies or egotistic desires.

The very act of discussing, making fun of or displaying nudity and partial nudity as the primary focus to entice or disturb the audience as a way of entertainment is behavior that is degrading and disgracing to those people’s private possessions. On the other hand, those who allow themselves to become the topic of others’ discussion and enjoyment of their sexuality and nudity are not being responsible for their total well-being. This stems directly from the ego quality of wanting to be noticed and gain power by way of exploiting our own bodies to receive attention and desirability from others, which is far away from the soul quality of self-respect and pride.

We must not forget that every single part of our bodies, especially our private parts, are extremely sacred to us and we should not allow anyone to persuade or influence us to share our bodies with the general public, not even for the reason of fame, money or career advancement. This is because the physical body belongs to us and it is priceless and no one else should be the director of it except ourselves. In the meantime, we should have enough self-esteem and self-worth to feel content and comfortable with our own bodies and should not have the need to show them to the general public in a sexy manner to gain acceptance. We should share this private possession only with our significant others because they are very special to us.

People who like to exploit others’ physical bodies to make a living, such as hiring all female waitresses in restaurants and bars, produce bikini and beauty contests, establishing topless bars and strip clubs, producing nudity and partial nudity magazines and videos, setting up nude photos on the Internet or providing prostitution and call girl services, should not be condoned or supported by any means. We must understand that anything focusing on the ego perspective of physical pleasure is only taking us away from the need for personal growth and not toward it.

Each person's physical body is a representation of his/her soul and each body part is the extension of his/her soul in expression.
(6:3-2)

Exceprt from: Sex and Aggression and True Leaders Part III, Professional and Social Guide

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It Is Always "Show Time" At Work

As we show up to work, we have to be ready to perform our tasks with a good amount of confidence which stems from the amount of preparation we have. We have to view our performance on the job like a performance on stage. It is “Show Time” when we are at work and we should put our best performance forward. It is definitely not the time we should be practicing our craft and rehearsing the procedures in hoping that we will do okay. We should study, practice, rehearse, and role-play the company policies and procedures on our own time. We should minimize our mistakes and never have to compromise our service to others due to our unwillingness and/or laziness in ensuring sufficient preparation. We should always be our own highest critics and evaluate our performances every day we are working so that we can improve on our weaknesses and make them our strengths.

Weaknesses may consist of tardiness, disorganization, forgetfulness, bad handwriting, negative attitude, gossiping, and laziness, just to name a few. How much we get paid on the job should not be an issue. Doing the job right is a personal obligation we want to provide and should not be driven by how much we get paid. In fact, if we are ever underpaid, then we should be able to demonstrate our superior performance to our bosses at all times. This way, when it comes to the time for us to ask for a raise and/or promotion, we would have something concrete and worthy to show as well as to make a new proposal of an ideal pay rate.

Feeling incompetent and overwhelmed at times, especially when we start a new position/job, is to be expected and should be understood. However, if we are true leaders in our own right, we will never allow this kind of stress to interfere with our need to focus and to learn the company rules and procedures expediently. We would have enough tenacity and volition to want to do a good job simply because we are proud of who we are and what we are capable of. This is when we possess an entrepreneurial spirit to strive for the company goal with a sense of purpose and devotion. We simply cannot skip this very important process in learning any new knowledge and/or skills that are required of us and to be able to perform up to company standards and feel proud within ourselves of a job well done.

Regardless of our personal or family problems, whether they are relationship, health, financial, child raising, bereavement or other problems, we cannot let them affect our performance on the job. Most of us can always try harder to be more focused on the job and put our personal problems aside so that we can continue to keep our performance level high. It is definitely not a favor we give to our employers but a pledge we have agreed to fulfill each day we go to work even with stressful life occurrences.

It is always “Show Time” when coming to work. We rehearse before and after, but we always perform when we are at work.
(5:11-1)

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#1 Reason For Relationship Failure

One of our most significant daily responsibilities to our loved ones whom we live with and love dearly is – attention. Attention in the form of conversation, companionship, play time, affection, and intimacy. We must realize that human beings and even pets that we own are sentient beings. They can perceive feelings and have emotions. We may encounter a situation in life that makes us work longer hours and hold many jobs in order to make ends meet. We may think that by working harder to earn the necessary money we need to pay our bills and debts and saving the rest for something we can do in the future for the enjoyment of both of us is the right thing to do now.It may be the right thing to do for our future goals but we also cannot over look the importance of living in the present moment.

Working overtime and working all the time would leave no time for us to really spend quality time with our significant others and to allow our relationships to continue to grow and blossom. Planning for the future and working toward our future goals are very important; however, nothing in the future is concrete and guaranteed. While we diligently are planning for the future for both of us, we also need to take care of the present as well since the present is what is real and predictable.If we depend greatly on striving to fulfill the dreams we want to have in the future and neglect what is really happening in the present, we may run the risk of jeopardizing our current relationship and then we may not have the ideal future we have been dreaming of. This is because our relationship may not last that long to allow us to fulfill our future dreams together. Why would our relationship not last long? The answer to this question is again -- lack of attention.

When couples are not spending enough time together, their eyes start to wander for others’ attentions. Their minds start to find ways to get their emotional needs met. Their bodies start to hunger for sexual/intimate satisfaction. And their emotions start yearning for passion and affection in their lives. Most marriages and relationships fail because one partner is crying out for attention and companionship but the other partner just does not care and often ignores the seriousness or severity of the situation which leaves the waiting partner no choice but to find others for his/her emotional and physical needs.In this case, the affair is not solely the wrongdoing of the engaged partner but also the indifferent partner as well, who chooses not to carry out his/her duty as a significant other and neglects his/her partner’s needs in the relationship. The indifferent partner actually pushes and forces the waiting partner to seek others for help which results in an affair. Even though an affair is not to be condoned or contemplated, the failure of one partner to fulfill his/her duty toward the other also is not to be condoned or contemplated, a fact society often overlooks.

The ultimate goal for setting aside quality time in spending with our significant others is to allow us to really enjoy each other’s company, understand each other’s needs, ignite the romantic chemistry within each other and to really love being in each other’s presence by observing the details of each other’s every move, smile, gesture, expression, and demeanor.Any couple who is serious about each other and wants to get to know each other better in a dating relationship should spend 7-14 quality hours per week with each other – in person and over the phone, 15-24 quality hours in a committed relationship, 25-35 quality hours during engagement period or marriage. Pay a special attention to each others’ eyes that seem to glow with a spark when we look into each other and tell each other how very much we do care and love one another.
(5:5-3)

Excerpt from: The Naked Truth About Relationships and True Leaders Part II, Family Guide.

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What Is True Happiness?

Nowadays, most of us tend to work very hard at our jobs or careers, hoping to generate more income so that we and our families can have a higher standard of living, which in turn will bring more happiness into our lives by having better lives. Let's think for a minute as to what we mean by a better life. Is it to have a better house to live in? To have a better car to drive? To have better clothes to wear? To have better food to eat? To have a better financial situation? Or to have better materialistic possessions at our disposal?

Let's assume that having all of the above "better everything" in our lives can bring us true happiness and help us learn more about the wisdom in life -- then the truth about this life is actually very materialistic and tangible and rather temporary and short-lived. If this is truly what the core of reality is all about, then those of us who have the opportunity to possess sufficient material and tangible things should not have to experience much suffering in our lives. Ironically, the more possessions and wealth we have, the more burdens, responsibility, anxiety, and maybe more misery we have to bear.

By having the opportunity to experience materialistic wealth, power, and the public's respect and admiration, we invariably also face the intensity of excitement, but it is more in the form of temptation than contentment. Temptation feeds the desires of the ego in that the more money we earn, the more we spend, the more fame and status we hold, the more power we desire. The more power we possess, the more we abuse it, and the more materialistic goods we possess, the more we crave.

In order to constantly satisfy the ego's gratification, we tend to seek more of those things we already have, usually not for the purpose of benefiting others, but most importantly to benefit the ego. Therefore, the more tangible things we obtain, the more temptations there will be, and the more responsibility we would have to render in order to overcome those temptations. If we fail to take on the responsibility of avoiding destructive behaviors, we will be trapped within the cycle of never-ending suffering.

In reality, the status, fame, power, wealth, and materialistic things we have been striving for and already possess are merely passing through our lives. What is genuinely ours has to come from within, such as our personalities, talents, knowledge, wisdom, and personal values, which cannot die or be destroyed by any means unless we allow it. Even though we can always enjoy those tangible things we desire for as long as we have them, the very thought and act of depending on them for our happiness can be very detrimental and dangerous to our personal growth. Because once those tangible things are no longer there, we might not know how to restore our balance. Those things might be taken away from us suddenly and/or cruelly, by means of corruption, aggression, greed, hatred or jealousy by others we either know or do not know.

The most promising thing for us to strive for is to search for happiness within us through our personal growth and self-expression in all aspects of our lives, including our work, family life, hobbies, social activities, and personal times for ourselves. This is the very purpose that defines true happiness and the very goal true leaders in our society are striving for. Thus, we would not have to become powerless or emotionally broke when we are financially and materialistically broke. (5:1-1)

Excerpt from: True Leaders Part III, Professional and Social Guide

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Live in the Moment

--Leader’s Quality Living --

When we live in the moment, we are no longer focusing on the past or the future. It is the now that is of concern. Every single minute of our experience is as fascinating and pristine as the enchanting sunrise where not a single moment that passes is the same. Every sound heard, every scent smelled, every object seen, every food tasted, every texture felt, and every energy sensed all constitute a very unique encounter which we experience at that perfect and harmonious moment.“Perfect” because the event happens at that precise moment, and “harmonious” because it is destined to happen in that exact fashion. This allows our minds to rest at ease and sit back to watch the wonders happen in front of our eyes as each moment takes us to a new experience in life. As compelling as our minds are in drawing us to worries, frustrations, and wandering thoughts about the past, present or future events, we must make an extra effort to put those nuisances aside.

They are considered nuisances for the very reason that they are like the dust on our lenses. Our thinking minds are like a sheet of filter paper and our rational minds are interpreting the event for us in understandable terms. If the conscious mind (self-state), is not clear as it sits between the experience (event) and the experiencer (ego-state & soul-state), we are not able to experience the events the way they really are due to the residue that is left on the filter. This is like the filter of an air conditioner, filled with dirt or dust, which prevents the cool air from getting through, becoming very stale air to the experiencer. If we allow our thoughts to be constantly filled with worries, frustrations, and wandering thoughts, we will not be able to experience the full scope of the situation and the environment we are in.

Thoughts come and go -- they may last for a second or a few seconds. As human beings, we encounter approximately 60,000 thoughts per day. Our inner thoughts are important, but thoughts have their own appropriate times and places, too. As new ideas and worries surface in our minds, we are more than welcome to give attention to those thoughts for a certain period of time as long as we do not jeopardize the current experience and its special meaning to us. However, if we constantly attach to those worries, frustrations, and/or wandering thoughts, we will never be able to experience the moment fully as it presents itself to us. Even when we think about our past and feel something from our memory of the past, we still are not able to experience every single detail of that particular event totally. This is because the memory we have stored in our minds about the event is strictly based on selective memory in both good and bad times. When it comes to our future expectations and predictions, we tend to either over- or under-estimate the outcome for the most part. Therefore, it is not ideal to do it justice by becoming a slave of the future.

If we constantly live in the dreams of the future, and the possible outcomes and problems we may face in the future, we will be living in an illusionary world and straying away from the present moment of what is truly real.To have dreams to inspire us to make our future brighter is considered productive, but to solely live in the dreams of the future and not appreciate the present moment can be very unproductive. Therefore, only the present moment that we experience consciously is considered the actual experience of the event we encounter with purity and originality and all of us who share the experience together are able to arrive at a much closer interpretation with each other.The past and the future are illusionary; only the present moment is real.(7:2-2)

Excerpt from: True Leaders Part I, Personal Guide

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True Leaders -- A Book on Self-Discovery

True Leaders is a book of self-discovery. It will be most useful for those who aspire to make a difference in this world – meaning the leaders in our country, not the followers. This book offers valuable insights to accommodate the passion, zest, and eagerness of those who are ready to make a quantum leap into a new set of discoveries. It also acts as a motivational guide to further promote the thinking and curiosity of those who govern their lives based on their own search for truth and not merely on acceptance of the truth as others define it. True Leaders contains a tremendous wisdom which enriches wholeheartedly and is written exclusively for those who are ready to open their hearts and minds to the experience of reality and total awareness. It offers a journey of exploration into the beauty, the truth, and the spirit of life for those who are aspired to contribute their valuable qualities and gifted talents to humanity. This is a continuous process and a priceless journey for those who are ready to launch onto the path of self-discovery.

It is a comprehensive book that covers topics that concern readers in all aspects of life. It serves as a guiding light for readers to rely upon throughout every stages of their lives; therefore, it is meant to be read more than once, since every moral text can never become useless and the more we read it, the more we are able to find the wisdom in its message and become enlightened along the way.This book contains original quotes, everyday scenarios, and a set of ideologies to help readers gain more insight into their own discoveries. Each chapter is designed not only to help readers broaden their perspectives in each topic discussed but also inspire readers to open their hearts and minds to embrace a whole new way of thinking and hopefully a whole new way of living. This is with the intent of helping readers interpret their own realizations more accurately, easily, and effectively -- since receiving wisdom is a matter of process and not a matter of instance.

Wisdom is such a profound phenomenon that words need to be carefully written and thought out in order to bring out the flavor of what truth might feel like – since inner feeling is what facilitates our inner knowing of the wisdom within.
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